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A Gentlemen’s Guide to Picking Out Your First Sex Toy

A Gentlemen’s Guide to Picking Out Your First Sex Toy

Published by Programme B

Shopping for your first sex toy can be a bit overwhelming. You’d think it would be easy because most people assume the options for men are scarce. But you’d be wrong — and that’s actually a great thing!

After all, it gives us a chance to provide this nifty guide to picking out your first sex toy. But before we talk about the different kinds of toys you can choose from — let’s establish a baseline.

Start by Figuring Out Your Comfort Level

Before we introduce you to the various kinds of sex toys you might want to get, you have to answer a few questions. Don’t worry — we’re not quizzing you. The answers will help you narrow down the options later on.

First, consider the area you’re looking to stimulate. Most sex toys for guys can be divided into categories based on the area they’re supposed to stimulate. Namely, they can either stimulate the penis or the prostate, through the anus. If you’re not quite ready to experiment with back door stuff yet, you can still choose between the many penis-focused toys on the market.

On the other hand, if you’ve got penis stimulation covered, you could look into products that don’t go anywhere near your private bits. For example, bondage accessories like restraints and blindfolds are tools that can enhance our sexual experiences with other people. So that brings us to the second question you should answer.

Namely, how do you want to use the sex toy you get? There are plenty of toys you can use to give both yourself and other partners mind-blowing orgasms. However, those are usually divided into things you can use with other men and ones you can use with women.

Then again, masturbators and other toys you can use on your own can also be fun additions to partnered sex. So if you’re looking for versatile options, just get whatever looks interesting when you go to somewhere like this Sex Toy Shop Soho, or browse online stores. If nothing else, you can always have your partner use it on you!

Look Through the Different Kinds of Sex Toys for Men

At this point, you probably have some idea about what kinds of toys you wouldn’t be comfortable with. Still, we recommend keeping an open mind as we go through the options together. Who knows? You might end up really liking the idea of some toys you were previously apprehensive about.

Cock Rings

Let’s start with an easy one. Most people think of cock rings as tools that can prolong partnered sexual activities by delaying orgasms. And that’s true, to a point. Cock rings work by constricting the blood vessels at the base of the penis and, sometimes, the testicles, thereby slowing blood flow.

Still, that definition makes it seem like cock rings are only fun during partnered activities. But that couldn’t be further from the truth. These kinds of devices can also increase sensation in the penis and make orgasms more intense. Moreover, different kinds of cock rings are available at different price points.

While some of them are only supposed to help users achieve larger and harder erections, many also incorporate vibrations. The latter kind of device can be particularly enjoyable to female partners, as it can provide additional stimulation to the clitoris during penetrative sex.

Masturbators and Sleeves

The difference between masturbators and masturbation sleeves is fairly subtle, but it exists. Namely, masturbators generally have a larger range of features than simple silicone sleeves. The best male masturbators can vibrate or pulsate, heat up, and offer different textures for you to enjoy.

On the other hand, masturbation sleeves can be simple silicone covers that can essentially function as ribbed condoms. These products can help men increase the length and girth of their penises during penetrative sex. But even though these products generally have a simpler design, some of them can have vibrating features as well, to provide G-spot stimulation.

Prostate Stimulators

Any kind of sex toy that can be inserted anally to stimulate the prostate can go into this category. On the one hand, we can use the same basic dildoes and vibrators that are marketed to women. On the other, there are all sorts of options for people who are looking for more specialized anal play products like anal beads and butt plugs.

Lastly, you’ve got prostate massagers, which are basically the male equivalent to G-spot vibrators. They’re typically insertable anally and just long enough to reach the prostate and provide the user with full-body orgasms. Trust us, once you try one of these products, you’ll never again want to masturbate through penis stimulation only.

Sex Dolls

Fortunately, most sex dolls you’ll find on the market right now are nothing like what you’re imagining right now. On the one hand, there are plenty of old-fashioned inflatable dolls that can provide simulated oral, vaginal, and even anal sex. If you’re into anime, you could even find one that resembles your favorite character.

Of course, nowadays, sex dolls are becoming more and more realistic. Depending on the amount of money you’re willing to put into your first tools that can enhance our sexual experiences, you may even be able to tweak your doll’s features. But that’s not really a beginner-friendly option.

Bondage Tools

Understandably, many people are uncomfortable with the idea of getting a product that’s closely associated with BDSM as their first sex toy. Still, if you’re looking to spice up sex with partners, a light bondage accessory could be just the thing for you.

Dipping one’s toes into bondage toys usually starts with blindfolds and restraints. And if you want to test out either of those before making a purchase, you can always use dress ties or stockings.

The next level up from there can include nipple clamps, gags, paddles, floggers, and crops. Of course, that all depends on the sensations you and your partner would like to experiment with. If you end up liking the feeling of relinquishing control to your partner — you could try a chastity cage next time.


Speaking of power play, teledildonics is the latest development in that particular department. Remote-controlled sex toys can include anything from vibrators and prostate massagers to butt plugs and many other devices. Some companies even make underwear that lets you feel a partner’s touch no matter where in the world you are.

That makes this technology perfect for people in long-distance relationships, online sex workers, and just those who are looking to have some slightly exhibitionist fun.

Now Get Whatever Speaks to You!

Ultimately, if you’re coming into the world of sex toys with fresh eyes, the worst thing you can do is overanalyze. Once you know the basics about each kind of product, one of them is sure to catch your fancy. So don’t overthink it — just get the first thing that suits your needs and go from there. Everyone has to start somewhere, right?

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